It can be difficult to know what is best to say or what can trigger upset. This is a difficult and confusing time and you often say things you don't mean when you are not feeling like yourself. Here are some sentences to help you
Knowing what to say
Knowing what to say?
What not to say
I know how you feel
You'll be fine, don't worry
know exactly what to do
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FEELINGS
I care about you.
I'm here to listen
How can I help?
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What to say
Your finances
Your emotions
Your emotions are likely to be all over the place, you may even be feeling guilty about not feeling strong for your loved one, this is common, but you are doing your best. It is important to confront your emotions and let them run their cause. Here are some of the ways you may be feeling and ways you can deal with your feelings.
Feelings
Talk to a friend
Write down your thoughts
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Well-being
Eat healthily
Get enough sleep
Exercise
Emotions
Shocked
Sad
Angry
Guilty
Anxious
Exhausted
Lonely
In denial
Your finances
BENEFITS
Your finances
Becoming a primary carer changes your life, and often this means you can no longer work, or you have to reduce your hours significantly. This can be scary and a big worry.However, there is benefits and grants available to support you financially as a primary carer.
Benefits
The department of work manage benefits
Claiming depends on your income and whether you have payed enough national insurance contribution
It is important to have medical and financial details when applying.
Grants
You can get grants from the government or local council to see what help is available in your area
There are grants and loans for heating costs, speak to your energy supplier
Some charities offer occupational funds
Support from work
If you have worked for your employer for at least 26 weeks you have the right to ask for flexible working hours
Asking for time off work for an emergency is called time off for dependants
Other options include career breaks, carers’ leave, or compassionate leave
Your relationship
The upset and distress of cancer
and put pressure on your relationship with your loved one. This is normal. Here a some of our tips to help keep your relationship with positive and help life to feel normal again.
Tips
Show affection
Cook your loved one a meal
Help with the housework
Buy them a thoughtful gift
Communication is key
Be an active listener
Ideas
Do an activity you both enjoy
Go for a meal
Have a weekend away
Go to the cinema
Your partner
Your partner may feel self-conscious about changes in their body
Feeling more emotional than usual
Feeling more tired than normal